It’s easy to find yourself in a situation where someone has either intentionally or unintentionally done something that has harmed you, and at that moment of hurt you just want to seek revenge. Whether it’s throwing a punch in return, or saying something back as mean as what was said to you, or even plotting a way to get back at them in the future. I’m sure we’ve all had moments like this.
Yesterday over family breakfast, grandma, as always, was talking about how mistreated by grandpa she was before he passed. My aunt quickly stopped grandma’s bantering and stated that to her, grandpa was the most perfect human being she has ever known. (Yes I know most perfect is grammatically wrong, but it is used here for effect. In Chinese, translates as 最完美) So naturally, she had to defend her statement as to why she thought grandpa was perfect.
Grandpa was a general doctor in a small village in Gansu province in his younger years. People in the village were poor and didn’t have the privilege to access proper health care. Grandpa was always helping the poor who couldn’t afford going to the doctor by giving them free consultations, and paying for the medication from his own pocket. While doing so, he had his own family to raise. He had 4 children and his mother to provide for as well. He knew very early on that the education in the village was not enough for his children, so he had then sent his four children all into the city to receive the best schooling possible. And this meant higher school fees, sending food and money to the family who took them in. But though circumstances were difficult, nothing stopped grandpa from performing actions of kindness to all. My uncle said he remembered once a poor man had come to grandpa with very little clothes on, and without hesitation, my uncle was ordered to give his clothes to the poor man. This was only two examples of many.
It’s not difficult to practice kindness. You just need to remember how happy and rewarding being kind to others makes you feel, and not think about how others will repay you for your act of kindness. When being hurt, don’t think about revenge, but of forgiveness. Maybe they are just going through a rough patch in their own lives. We will never know. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.