Day 14 Judgment
19 Feb 2021
We all have judged people at some point in life. Some of us even more than once a day, admit it or not. I’m sure most of us have also suffered from being at the receiving end of judgement too. We form perceptions, values and expectations as we grow up, and those start to become benchmarks of our judgments.
For example, have you been judged for not being successful enough in school? Never ranking higher in class than the “next door neiour”? Have you been judged for not being hardworking enough in your job while your younger cousin is already a manager in some big shot firm? Have you been told you are too old in the singles market and are an outcast for being content with being single and not wanting to settle? Or have you been judged for not wanting a second child because your first already gave you hell?
We’ve all been judged in one way or another, whether it’s regarding schooling, social status, career progression or marital status, and have felt either guilt or remorse because of it. But do you really need to? Think about this, if measuring success or happiness can be quantified in kilograms, how much does each ingredient to success or happiness weigh? And shouldn’t the weighting of each ingredient be different for each individual?
Nobody should have the right to judge you with their personalized scale, because they have no idea the weighting of each ingredient on yours. And neither should you judge others upon your own scale.
In mindfulness we practice the art of letting go of any judgment. Let go of judging yourself, judging the thoughts that run through your head, judging the people and the things around you.