I’ve been reading this book lately and came across this interesting theory about anger that I thought I’d share with you here.
Let’s create a scenario. I’ll use my mom and I here so you can imagine in your head what happens. One day I was quarreling with my mom. Things got heated quickly and it wasn’t long till we started yelling at each other in rage.
Then the phone started ringing. Of course, my mom picked up the phone and answered with a voice filled with anger. “Wehhhh!!??”
Soon she realized it was my brother’s homeroom teacher on the phone. Her voice quickly changed and for the next five minutes, she was polite and calm.
As soon as she hung up the phone, in a moment, her voice changed with her facial expression and we went straight back to our heated fight.
The philosophy behind this scenario is , anger can be imagined as a tool, and shouting and screaming are just channels for you to let out your anger. It can be put away the moment the phone rings, and pulled out again after one hangs up. Mom wasn’t yelling in anger she cannot control, she is simply using the anger to overpower home with a loud voice, and thereby assert her opinions.
Again, anger is a tool that can be and should be taken out and held back as your mind allows it to. Thus, using the tool or not is entirely up to you.
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