29 Mar 2021
This entry is inspired and adapted from Haemin Sunim’s Love for Imperfect Things There are times in our lives when a really difficult situation comes up and we want to talk about it with someone. At such times, what sort of person do you end up seeking out? A friend who is smarter and has a clearer head? Or a friend who seems like they will listen to you warmly and be on your side? I will usually go for the latter. From someone’s facial expressions, tone of voice and body language, we come to feel cared for and acknowledged and understood. When someone would focus on me, letting me say what I wanted to say without cutting me off or changing the subject, my troubled heart would begin to open up, and I would start to share those bottled up stories without fear of being judged. Being a teacher, I’ve many times found myself in a situation where a lesson I’ve prepared is actively engaging, challenging and invites full participation of my students in one class, whereas in another class, it’s quite the opposite. Students are quiet, look puzzled and leave my class with little progress. I sometimes wonder why that is. If my students and I are attuned to each other, my lesson flows like a river, coursing through the classroom on a lively atmosphere. But if my students decide to only be receptive on the day, passiveness won’t help them progress. This is why listening is not a passive activity at all, it requires an open mind, patience, engagement and attention. Just during my recent visit to Lanzhou, my grandma confided in me many of her concerns and worries, and I just sat and listened by her side. I couldn’t interact with her much because her dialect was hard to understand, but not really because I was actively listening. Each time she starts a new story, one of her children would say, Mom! We’ve heard this a thousand times already! But grandma told the story anyway. She didn’t need a person to discuss the issue with her, just a pair of listening ears. So I encourage you to think once in a while, about whether there are family members or friends going through a difficult time. Even though we may not have solutions to the problems they are facing, they will be grateful just to know we are there, willing to listen. 倾听是爱
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